Verbal vs. Non Verbal

I am a verbal kind of person, which means: I can express myself well in words, written or spoken. I admire (and worship) words and language, from novels, short stories, poems, everything literature, to clever use of words in newspapers and advertisements.

Now, I always have some troubles with my boyfriend, because he is not good at expressing himself in words. When we first dated, I never understood his texts (SMS). Full of abbreviation, no coma, no period. Only after a couple of week did I begin to understand them.

Communication is also somewhat confusing for me. In a lot of times, I have to use my not-so-good tacit knowldege and guess what he has in mind. I struggle through this. In certain points, I even thought that perhaps I and my boyfriend don’t speak the same language.

However, yesterday was my birthday. I turned a quarter century. I’m an old lady now and I’m proud of it hehe.. Anyway, I did not celebrate it with anything, because of a technical reason: I had a class from 6-9 pm!

dbldvo.jpg At the middle of the class, we had a break then everyone started to sing happy birthday. Ow, such sweet classmates. And suddenly, I saw a bald cute guy holding a turtle birthday cake came into the class. It was my boyfriend! What was he doing there?! Everything turned to happy moments yesterday, girls were envy at me of having such a romantic boyfriend, etc.  It turned out that my boyfriend had done some “survey” the previous week. He had talked to my professor and my friends to prepare for the little party. And yes, I was touched and happy.

Well, yesterday sure stirred up my perspectives on a lot of things. I was always kind of “demanding” my boyfriend to be more verbal, so that I can understand him. But I guess he’s just not it. He’s just not verbal. He never gave me any cards, he never gave me nice nor clever words. But he does things.

Maybe what I should do is just looking at him as who he is. A non-verbal person. God help me to understand him.

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